There was a daily adage that I received from my mother: don’t worry about anything. She expressed this to me religiously the last couple years of her life. It took me a good while to understand what she meant. I assumed that stress and worry was a normal part of life.
I had learned that she, for the majority of her life, stressed over things and people unnecessarily. And that unnecessary stress led to her first critical illness, a brain aneurysm. Fortunately, with the grace of God, she survived that traumatic experience. Although she knew the level of stress she endured was part of the problem, she realized it was actually a large part. She made a commitment to never stress over things and people ever again. And she wanted me to live my life the same way to avoid what she experienced.
So, I’ve challenged myself to follow through with what she expressed…I do my best to not worry and stress unnecessarily.
Stress + Worry = Useless
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” – Dalai Lama XIV
Once I accepted what my mother wished for me, I began looking for a deeper understanding of stress and worry. I learned that some stress is okay. But when it begins to fester itself in the mind and body to the point of “dis-ease”, that’s a good sign you are stressing unnecessarily. I began concentrating on all the things I could do and prayed for the things I didn’t have much choice in the matter. This newfound mindset helped me get back into furthering my education. More importantly, it allowed me to enjoy my mother’s presence while she was still here physically.
“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened.” – Mark Twain
I’ve found myself worried for nothing on many occasions in my life thus far. I’ve suffered unnecessary headaches, nausea, body aches, and a multitude of other preventable “illnesses” all because of stress. It’s no joke. And too much of it will lead you towards a depression. Once I realized that as long as I give my best effort, ain’t no need to worry about much after that. I learned that it is foolish to worry when you know you did your best.
The Time is Right Now
“Dwelling on the negative aspects of the past, and worrying about what will happen in the future will guarantee a stream of discontent right now.” – Mark P. Hawthorne
One of the greatest truths I’ve learned is that all that we will ever have is right now. Yesterday is gone forever, and tomorrow may never come. The best thing to do is enjoy and focus on all the things we can do right now. It’s literally all we have. I’ve gained many things in life and lost some. But I’ve learned to count my blessings and be thankful. Acknowledging the positive in my life will lead to more positive. Everything we do begins with faith. We must all develop faith strong enough to bear the burden of our doubts. If we cease worrying, faith is enough.
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